Imagine holding the baby of your dreams in your arms...
As you gaze into her deep blue eyes, waves of gratitude overwhelm you and your heart swells with all the hopes and desires you have for this child. As she drifts off to sleep, you look toward the future. You envision her first smile, spending warm, sunny days at the park, and hearing her sweet voice say "Mama".
For years, Kara and her husband longed for a baby to fill their empty arms. Through endless infertility treatments, cycle after cycle ending with disappointment, each failed attempt made it a little harder to try again.
When they had exhausted every medical option, and most of their family savings, they turned to their one remaining hope.
Kara found her daughter through the miracle of adoption.
There is a baby out there for you!
One out of every six couples in America is unable to conceive a child after trying for a year. Some will go on to have a biological child, others will not. And each year some 60,000 couples from all walks of life will adopt because they share a belief that their lives will not be complete without a child.
Adoption, like pregnancy or infertility treatments, comes with its own journey, its own time frame, and its own price tag. Couples often find themselves overwhelmed with information and questions as they begin to research adoption, especially as they learn just how many different options are available to them.
The good news is that you can adopt, safely and successfully -- You can find the baby you've been dreaming of!
In the state of California, most couples should able to complete an adoption in under two years, however many fall prey to the common pitfalls that slow the adoption process or even put their adoption in legal jeopardy. Just as with any new endeavor, it is vital that you learn the basics before you spend valuable time and hard-earned money toward your adoption.
Many families have found themselves led down a road of dreams, only to be abandoned, without the resources to take another try at adoption, and heartbroken over the realization that parenthood may never happen. Tom and Nancy were one of these families...
Learn How to Avoid Common Adoption Pitfalls
Tom and Nancy were a couple in their early forties, who had been trying to conceive for four years. Due to their age and unexplained infertility, their specialist finally encouraged them to pursue adoption.
They went home, opened their yellow pages, and called the first adoption referral listed. This agency was very helpful with the home study, something required in California and all other states, and answered all the questions the couple had. In fact, they were so kind and professional, Tom and Nancy never thought to consider that they should ask for references or research other professionals.
As the waiting process began, Tom and Nancy were patient, knowing their baby would come. But when four years had passed with little activity, they knew they had made a mistake, costing them money, and precious, precious time.
Face it, most of us don't begin the adoption process because we want to -- it is a miraculous blessing born out of desperate need. It is this desperate need that unscrupulous people will take advantage of.
Many families find themselves learning about adoption after they have already wasted valuable time and money on bad adoption plans, scams, and frauds. Armed with some very basic knowledge, you will have a huge advantage over other adoptive families and you will complete your adoption far sooner.
Here are the top three adoption pitfalls:
1. If it sounds too good to be true, it is!
The reality is, you have to trust someone when it comes to your adoption. How do you determine if someone is worthy of your trust? Beware of anyone who promises something that simply sounds too perfect. This may mean an extremely low cost, very short wait time, or especially a multiple birth. This is your adoption. You are putting your family into a position of trusting another individual and you need to know that you've done all you can to protect your investment of time, money, and emotion.
2. Don't give money to anyone without verifying their legitimacy.
Never give anyone money without knowing more about who you are dealing with. Not only can you end up losing the money, you may be putting yourself at legal risk. Consult with your attorney or adoption professional before paying any pregnancy or living expenses.
3. Research all adoption professionals you choose to work with.
Some adoption professionals may make promises that seem way out of line with others you've spoken with. Research any adoption professional before signing any agreement. Ask for references, contact the local Better Business Bureau, and read any contracts thoroughly. Don't be shy about asking to speak with past clients.
The Key to Adoption Success: Education
There is nothing more vital to your adoption than taking the opportunity to learn all you can about the process, the personnel, and the pitfalls in adoption. With knowledge, you will be able to complete your family safely and successfully, while saving time and money. We recommend that all California families begin their adoption journey by learning all they can. Here are the top three ways that you can learn more about adoption:
1. Talk to People.
Many times, once you have found someone who has adopted or is an adoption professional, you learn more about the reality of adoption. If you are interested in speaking with a professional, such as Lifetime Adoption or African American Adoptions Online, pick up the phone and give them a call. Ask them your questions and see what they may recommend for your situation.
2. Attend a Meeting, either via teleconference or in your area.
This is another way to learn about adoption and ways in which professionals or support groups can help you through the process. Many times you will meet other potential adoptive families and realize that you are definitely not alone! To learn more about free adoption informational meetings that are available in your area, visit this page.
3. A great way to begin is by reading.
There is a wonderful book that covers adoption start to finish and answers most any questions prospective adoptive families may have. It is written by, Mardie Caldwell, an adoption professional with 20 years of experience and host of a radio program called Let's Talk Adoption. The book is called AdoptingOnline.com and is available online via the website, as well as in local bookstores. It covers different types of adoption available in California, as well as over 1,200 resources to help you get started.
Best Wishes to You!
Wherever your adoption journey leads you, please accept our best wishes in hopes that you too will be blessed by adoption.
If you have questions or would like more information about your specific situation, we recommend that you contact Lifetime Adoption. There is no fee to apply to their program and they will be happy to answer any questions you have!